The Heart of The Hermit Card
The Hermit Tarot Card in The Major Arcana is the 9th card, and it represents the sign of Virgo. This card embodies the “if you can’t love yourself, how the hell are you going to love somebody else?” mantra from RuPaul’s Drag Race. But that’s a flawed statement, isn’t it? You are always capable of giving love, even if it’s tricky to feel it for yourself. Giving love may be the way out of the dark in some cases.
I think a more accurate but less snappy version of the saying could be this: If you don’t have an ongoing relationship with yourself, how can you completely give yourself to a person, project, or idea?
The Hermit in COVID-19 Era
Remember a pre-COVID-19 world, when we said things like “if only I had more time!” Well, the universe certainly has a sense of humour, doesn’t it? Even if you found yourself working during isolation, you may have found a virus-shaped space where your familiar distractions used to be.
We saw the need for The Hermit in the public’s reaction to isolation. Healthy folks, when asked to stay inside, reacted in wildly different ways. Some people relished in a chance to slow down, while others rallied against the loss of “normal.” The Hermit asks what you’re running from.
Feeling Good on the Surface
For most people, life is noisy. It’s filled with traffic and multi-tasking and an angry boss, then chucking money at entertainment on their days off. I find the more day-job hours I work, the more I buy indulgent food or drinks.
Because it’s hard to be alone with yourself. There are all kinds of things lurking in our sub-conscious, and some of them are scary or time-consuming.
Doing a proper deep dive is really good for cultivating a sense of self-worth. But zoning out and binge-watching makeover shows hits that same button temporarily.
A Deeper Feeling
The Hermit asks you to mindfully and consciously disengage. Find some time for yourself (even just 10 minutes in the morning for some meditation or journalling) and tune out the distractions. The Hermit asks that you confront how you really feel, rather than living your life as a series of reactions.
A Personal Example
With tarot, I hate asking for money. I am constantly tempted to lower my prices. Because I get stressed asking for money, I want to react to that stress by changing my course of action. I’m like Wile E Coyote, constantly abandoning one failed scheme for another. I always wondered why he didn’t take some time to tweak what he’d already built.
Working with a career coach, we’ve started to untie the knots of my issues with money. I may still change my prices if it feels necessary, but I need to examine how I built these feelings about wealth. The Hermit asks that I turn inward before reacting outward.
Speaking of career counselors, The Hermit can represent a guide, someone who can give you a bird’s eye perspective on your situation. Maybe you’re the guide- leading people through the inner paths and patterns they’ve created. How will you do this consciously?
It’s fine to give yourself a mindless indulgence once in a while, but it’s not going to work in the long run. The Hermit Tarot Card in The Major Arcana tells us to slow down, find some quiet time, and look within.